I may share a lot on social media, but I’ll be honest… there’s a big part of me I don’t share. But after talking to some close friends and family, I know I’m far from the only one who struggles with this. In fact, I’m pretty sure we all do on some level.
I’m talking about the “mean girl” voice in my head.
The one who comes out the most when I’m tired or stressed or anxious or overwhelmed.
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The Negative Cycle of the “Mean Girl” Voice
It’s the voice that tells me I’m not good enough; not smart enough; not a good mom; not pretty enough; not successful enough…
the one that tells me I’m too weird and awkward, and all the things I lack.
The thoughts can easily spiral and that negative cycle of thinking can be hard to break. I’ve even heard stats that say about 80% of thoughts on any given day are negative. As Cara Alwill Levba in Girl Code says, “Far too many women dwell in negative thought patterns and disempowering behavior.”
While I’ve been getting better at quieting that voice, I still have days when that mean voice rears her ugly head. There are days I still tell myself things that I’d never dream of saying out loud to someone else. So why do I say them to myself?
Our minds are super powerful…but they can also be tricked. Did you know that your imagination becomes your reality? Research has shown that the brain can’t tell the difference between the two.
That’s one reason why I’m such a big fan of affirmations. Repeating affirmations on a regular basis — like while I’m brushing my teeth or vacuuming — has been proven to quiet that “mean girl” voice and to change the story I sometimes tell myself.
Examples of Affirmations
I am worthy.
I am loved.
I am a good person, a good mom, a good wife, and daughter and sister and friend.
I am creative.
I am strong.
I am worthy.
Say it with me.
Be kind to yourself.
Because, no matter what that mean girl voice inside our heads tries to say, you are incredible.
And we all have an important story to share with the world. 💜
For more affirmations, along with journal prompts, grab my digital download, a 28-Day Creative Spark Workbook for Moms.
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I really resonated with your honesty about the ‘mean girl’ voice—especially how it shows up most when we’re already overwhelmed. It’s so true that we often treat ourselves more harshly than we would a friend, and your point about the power of affirmations being a tool to rewire that cycle is a great reminder. Thanks for sharing your journey and encouraging us to be kinder to ourselves.